Speaking from experience, some opinions should be kept to yourselves and some advice should be given from the perspective of the receiver not the giver. Yes, of course one can only give advice if he or she is in or have been in a similar situation before but has it ever occur to you that your opinion or advice would only make things worse.

Imagine this, you and your friend are out shopping together searching for prom dresses and both of you have styles which are entirely different from each other. Your friend likes dresses which are on the tougher side- think tougher designs and dark colors. On the other hand, you dig styles which are sophisticated and girly- Off Shoulder, lace and all that. You walk into a store and you see a dress that fits your criteria perfectly- Off-Shoulder, Light Blue with mild embellishments. Despite the fact that you are already in love with the dress, you ask the opinion of your friend anyway; like what good friends shopping together always do and your friend made a statement similar to this "Eeew no it's so not my style". Of course it's not dummy! You wouldn't buy something that your friend likes because it's her style. It's called YOUR dress for a reason and not HER dress.

My point is, respect your friend enough that you give an advice based on her point of view and what suits her. Making a statement similar to that not only hurts her but will also make you look shallow. You see, I understand that your style is amazing and it's what most youngsters of my age dig but there is no legislation or case law that states that YOUR FRIENDS NEED TO DRESS LIKE YOU.

Style is a reflection of one's personality. You shouldn't make your friend dress like you and you shouldn't criticize her style just because it is not you. Those pieces clothe her body and not yours, those pieces reflect her personality and not yours. Would you like it if your friend said the same thing about you? Discriminating and criticizing something that you like because it is just "not her style"?

I was silly before. I was the kind of person who would invest in clothing that are "not me" just because it is categorized as cool and because I would receive compliments and whatnot from people. I feel like a trendsetter but am I confident? No. Does it reflect who I am? No. After sometime I realized that it looks hideous on me, not only it gives people the wrong perception of me, I wasted a whole lot of money on clothes that didn't last long because trends change and I grew bored of them. Should I have listened to myself and not unnecessary opinions, I wouldn't be spending my hard earned money on things that I don't even like.

I am blogging from the aspect of clothing and style because 1) I love fashion and 2) It happened to me in the exact situation described above. Do you want to know what it really feels like to have someone criticize your style like that? It feels horrible okay. Note that the way I dress is far from hipster. I am aware that I may not dress like my peers but the way I dress reflects my personality best. I am a bookworm who prefers reading and writing over going to clubs. I prefer movie dates, picnics and trip to the amusement park and all those old school stuff. Wearing oversized basketball tank and snapbacks really isn't my cue. Moreover, this case applies to many other scenarios too not only from the perspective of fashion.

Everyone has the rights to their own decision and although they have asked you for opinions and advice it doesn't give you the rights to just blurt out whatever you feel. Your opinions and advice are only to guide them and not to make them feel inferior and obligated to listen to you. Especially when it is only over a small matter. You can judge but not right to their faces because then, it becomes offensive. Friends who are brutally honest are true friends they say. No I don't agree entirely, friends who are stupidly honest are selfish and have no respect for anyone else but themselves.

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